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Cornelia C. Grofu

The Unspoken Struggle: Embracing Your Vulnerability, Deserving Support and Condemning Neglect


Today, I want to talk about something that I know weighs heavily on your heart. It's the reality that so many of the people are carrying the weight of their struggles all by themselves, while the needs and expectations of others take precedence over their own. Can you relate?

In this world that often glorifies strength and resilience, it can feel like some people are constantly expected to put on a brave face. They carry responsibilities, obligations, and pressures that demand their unwavering strength. Whether you're shouldering the burdens of caregiving, striving to meet the expectations placed upon you, or simply dealing with life's challenges, you find yourself unable to freely express your vulnerabilities and weaknesses or just simply to say "I need a break".

But let's talk about something that hits close to home - the fact that many times you're surrounded by individuals who fail to understand or prioritize your needs. It's disheartening to realize that the people around often overlook your struggles. Even when you long to break down and be "weak" for a while, seeking solace and understanding, you're met with indifference and a lack of care.


However, it's important for you to know that it's okay to be weak sometimes. It's okay to feel down, to have moments when you're not strong. You deserve to be able to lean on the ones around you, to be taken care of and supported in those vulnerable moments. You deserve to have your needs acknowledged and met, just as you strive to meet the needs of others.

It is disheartening and deeply disappointing when those who are supposed to be our pillars of support become mere receivers, constantly taking without giving. It is condemnable when they neglect our emotional well-being and show no regard for our needs. Relationships should be built on a foundation of mutual care, empathy, and support. When this balance is disrupted, it not only hurts us but also tarnishes the essence of relationships.

You must call out this neglect and challenge the behavior of those who fail to show up for us when you need them the most. It is essential to set boundaries and surround yourselves with individuals who understand the value of reciprocity, compassion, and giving. You deserve relationships that uplift you, where care is a two-way street, and support flows in both directions.

As you embrace your vulnerability, remember that you deserve to be surrounded by people who genuinely care about your well-being. Let go of those who consistently prioritize their own needs and remain apathetic towards yours. Cultivate relationships that are rooted in love, empathy, and genuine concern. Surround yourself with individuals who will walk beside you, providing the support and care that you deserve.

You are worthy of healthy, nurturing connections. Don't settle for one-sided relationships that drain your energy and diminish your sense of self-worth. Demand the love and support you deserve, and let go of those who fail to meet your needs. It's time to reclaim your vulnerability and embrace the fact that it's okay to take a break and ask for help and support. Your needs and emotions matter, and it's essential to prioritize them. Don't let the indifference of others diminish your worth or the validity of your struggles. Seek out those who will truly listen, who will hold space for you without judgment or dismissal.

You are not a superhuman expected to carry the weight of the world without respite. Remember, seeking help and support is not a sign of weakness; it's a testament to your strength and self-awareness.

Don't hesitate to reach out, to ask for help, and to let others show up for you in the same way you show up for them.



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