Feel It, Don’t Fight It: The Importance of Emotional Control for Kids and Teens

Emotions are part of being human — and for kids and teens, they can hit hard. Learning to understand and manage emotions (instead of being overwhelmed by them) is a life skill that sets the foundation for healthy relationships, decision-making, and mental well-being.

Emotional control doesn’t mean ignoring feelings or “staying calm” all the time. It means recognizing what you're feeling, expressing it in healthy ways, and not letting it take over your actions.

Why It Matters:When kids and teens can manage their emotions, they’re more likely to handle stress, bounce back from setbacks, and communicate better — at school, at home, and with friends.

For Parents: How to Support Emotional Growth

1. Name the Feelings

   Help your child identify emotions by naming them: “It looks like you’re feeling frustrated” or “That must’ve been disappointing.” This gives them the vocabulary to express themselves.

2. Stay Calm When They’re Not

   Your calmness is contagious. When you keep your cool during their storm, you show them how to regulate without saying a word.

3. Teach That All Emotions Are OK

   Let them know it’s okay to feel angry, sad, or anxious — the goal is not to avoid emotions, but to work throughthem.

4. Practice Together

   Use tools like breathing exercises, journaling, or a “calm down corner” at home. Regular practice makes it easier when big feelings hit.

   
   

For Kids & Teens: How to Handle Big Feelings

• Pause Before Reacting

  Take a deep breath, count to five, or walk away for a moment. Slowing down helps you make better choices.

• Talk It Out

  Find someone you trust — a parent, friend, or teacher — and share what you’re feeling. You don’t have to go through it alone.

• Move Your Body

  Go for a walk, shoot hoops, dance it out. Physical movement helps release stress and clears your head.

• Know It Will Pass

  Emotions come and go, even the tough ones. Remind yourself: “This is hard right now, but it won’t last forever.”

Helping kids and teens understand their emotions doesn’t make them “too sensitive” — it makes them strong. And when they learn to feel without falling apart, they carry that strength into every part of life.